How is it that our super charismatic friends always seem to get into conversations with whoever they run into? The barista, the guys and girls at the beach, the whole fun-looking table next to you.
Are they just friends with everyone?
No, not really. They’ve just learned and practised Pinging and Small Talk.
- Pinging is the act of figuring out who wants to talk. Not everyone is in the mood to talk, and not everyone is in the mood to talk to you.
- Small Talk is that part of conversation that everyone seems to hate, but which excellent conversationalists use to discover your surface characteristics, and share their own in an appealing way.
The Conversation Handbook goes into great depth, providing exercises on how to improve both of these skills. It also gives examples and some tricks that you may never had thought of, among many other helpful and related topics.
For now, let’s go over the basics of Pinging.